Comments on: I Haven't Been a Good Example to Belinda http://www.donnypauling.com/blog/2006/11/02/i-havent-been-a-good-example-to-belinda/ The Blog of Donny Pauling: former porn producer, changed by Grace and Love... Wed, 11 Jan 2012 01:17:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Adam http://www.donnypauling.com/blog/2006/11/02/i-havent-been-a-good-example-to-belinda/comment-page-1/#comment-422 Adam Sun, 30 Sep 2007 06:37:18 +0000 http://donnysramblings.wordpress.com/2006/11/02/i-havent-been-a-good-example-to-belinda/#comment-422 You really spoke to me just now, I've been trying to get through to my mom that she needs to deal with her past (having had an abortion years ago), and that this is why she gambles like she does, trying to run from it (another thing I've been getting on her to stop). The thing is though, I'm not conveying it in a very nice way, a lot of times I come up as angry or mean, sometimes yelling at her about it all. I know that isn't the way, and that if she is to change, I have to show her that I have changed as well. I have to start showing her the love and healing God has brought into my life, and that He can bring it into hers too if he'll let her. Until I can do that, I won't be able to get through to her. Basically I have to work on myself first (being someone who has my own problems, as a porn addict trying to break free), and get myself better before I can help her become better. You really spoke to me just now, I’ve been trying to get through to my mom that she needs to deal with her past (having had an abortion years ago), and that this is why she gambles like she does, trying to run from it (another thing I’ve been getting on her to stop). The thing is though, I’m not conveying it in a very nice way, a lot of times I come up as angry or mean, sometimes yelling at her about it all.

I know that isn’t the way, and that if she is to change, I have to show her that I have changed as well. I have to start showing her the love and healing God has brought into my life, and that He can bring it into hers too if he’ll let her. Until I can do that, I won’t be able to get through to her. Basically I have to work on myself first (being someone who has my own problems, as a porn addict trying to break free), and get myself better before I can help her become better.

]]> By: Adam http://www.donnypauling.com/blog/2006/11/02/i-havent-been-a-good-example-to-belinda/comment-page-1/#comment-4908 Adam Sun, 30 Sep 2007 06:37:00 +0000 http://donnysramblings.wordpress.com/2006/11/02/i-havent-been-a-good-example-to-belinda/#comment-4908 You really spoke to me just now, I've been trying to get through to my mom that she needs to deal with her past (having had an abortion years ago), and that this is why she gambles like she does, trying to run from it (another thing I've been getting on her to stop). The thing is though, I'm not conveying it in a very nice way, a lot of times I come up as angry or mean, sometimes yelling at her about it all. I know that isn't the way, and that if she is to change, I have to show her that I have changed as well. I have to start showing her the love and healing God has brought into my life, and that He can bring it into hers too if he'll let her. Until I can do that, I won't be able to get through to her. Basically I have to work on myself first (being someone who has my own problems, as a porn addict trying to break free), and get myself better before I can help her become better. You really spoke to me just now, I’ve been trying to get through to my mom that she needs to deal with her past (having had an abortion years ago), and that this is why she gambles like she does, trying to run from it (another thing I’ve been getting on her to stop). The thing is though, I’m not conveying it in a very nice way, a lot of times I come up as angry or mean, sometimes yelling at her about it all.

I know that isn’t the way, and that if she is to change, I have to show her that I have changed as well. I have to start showing her the love and healing God has brought into my life, and that He can bring it into hers too if he’ll let her. Until I can do that, I won’t be able to get through to her. Basically I have to work on myself first (being someone who has my own problems, as a porn addict trying to break free), and get myself better before I can help her become better.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.donnypauling.com/blog/2006/11/02/i-havent-been-a-good-example-to-belinda/comment-page-1/#comment-421 Anonymous Fri, 12 Jan 2007 01:55:20 +0000 http://donnysramblings.wordpress.com/2006/11/02/i-havent-been-a-good-example-to-belinda/#comment-421 I don't have an account yet, but I won't be "annonymous," my name is Ben.<br /><br />Thank you for this entry, Donny. This was very touching to me in its tragedy, but even more so in how you discribed Jesus' idea of the situation... I needed that. I don’t have an account yet, but I won’t be “annonymous,” my name is Ben.

Thank you for this entry, Donny. This was very touching to me in its tragedy, but even more so in how you discribed Jesus’ idea of the situation… I needed that.

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]]> By: Anonymous http://www.donnypauling.com/blog/2006/11/02/i-havent-been-a-good-example-to-belinda/comment-page-1/#comment-420 Anonymous Sun, 05 Nov 2006 11:26:40 +0000 http://donnysramblings.wordpress.com/2006/11/02/i-havent-been-a-good-example-to-belinda/#comment-420 Thanks for sharing that. May God continue to lead you on and reveal His glory to you and others through His Son. Thanks for sharing that. May God continue to lead you on and reveal His glory to you and others through His Son.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.donnypauling.com/blog/2006/11/02/i-havent-been-a-good-example-to-belinda/comment-page-1/#comment-4906 Anonymous Sun, 05 Nov 2006 11:26:00 +0000 http://donnysramblings.wordpress.com/2006/11/02/i-havent-been-a-good-example-to-belinda/#comment-4906 Thanks for sharing that. May God continue to lead you on and reveal His glory to you and others through His Son. Thanks for sharing that. May God continue to lead you on and reveal His glory to you and others through His Son.

]]> By: FromHisRibhttp://www.myspace.com/fromhisrib http://www.donnypauling.com/blog/2006/11/02/i-havent-been-a-good-example-to-belinda/comment-page-1/#comment-419 FromHisRibhttp://www.myspace.com/fromhisrib Fri, 03 Nov 2006 14:26:49 +0000 http://donnysramblings.wordpress.com/2006/11/02/i-havent-been-a-good-example-to-belinda/#comment-419 Donny,<br/><br/>I had wondered what this would do to your relationship with Belinda and was even brazen enough to ask you about it and you were humble enough to answer me.<br/><br/>I, someone who has proclaimed to follow Christ for a few years and then some now have learned a lot from your spirit of humility and your spirit of candidness. You seem to have a good balance of both.<br/>Inspirational to me.<br/><br/>I need more humility in my life.<br/><br/>As far as Belinda is concerned, I agree, your words need to match your lifestyle. I am glad you were sensitive to the Holy Spirit speaking to your heart and that you are reconciling this issue to God.<br/><br/>Kudos, kiddo! Donny,

I had wondered what this would do to your relationship with Belinda and was even brazen enough to ask you about it and you were humble enough to answer me.

I, someone who has proclaimed to follow Christ for a few years and then some now have learned a lot from your spirit of humility and your spirit of candidness. You seem to have a good balance of both.
Inspirational to me.

I need more humility in my life.

As far as Belinda is concerned, I agree, your words need to match your lifestyle. I am glad you were sensitive to the Holy Spirit speaking to your heart and that you are reconciling this issue to God.

Kudos, kiddo!

]]> By: FromHisRibhttp://www.myspace.c http://www.donnypauling.com/blog/2006/11/02/i-havent-been-a-good-example-to-belinda/comment-page-1/#comment-4905 FromHisRibhttp://www.myspace.c Fri, 03 Nov 2006 14:26:00 +0000 http://donnysramblings.wordpress.com/2006/11/02/i-havent-been-a-good-example-to-belinda/#comment-4905 Donny,I had wondered what this would do to your relationship with Belinda and was even brazen enough to ask you about it and you were humble enough to answer me.I, someone who has proclaimed to follow Christ for a few years and then some now have learned a lot from your spirit of humility and your spirit of candidness. You seem to have a good balance of both.Inspirational to me.I need more humility in my life.As far as Belinda is concerned, I agree, your words need to match your lifestyle. I am glad you were sensitive to the Holy Spirit speaking to your heart and that you are reconciling this issue to God.Kudos, kiddo! Donny,I had wondered what this would do to your relationship with Belinda and was even brazen enough to ask you about it and you were humble enough to answer me.I, someone who has proclaimed to follow Christ for a few years and then some now have learned a lot from your spirit of humility and your spirit of candidness. You seem to have a good balance of both.Inspirational to me.I need more humility in my life.As far as Belinda is concerned, I agree, your words need to match your lifestyle. I am glad you were sensitive to the Holy Spirit speaking to your heart and that you are reconciling this issue to God.Kudos, kiddo!

]]> By: Donny http://www.donnypauling.com/blog/2006/11/02/i-havent-been-a-good-example-to-belinda/comment-page-1/#comment-418 Donny Fri, 03 Nov 2006 04:08:28 +0000 http://donnysramblings.wordpress.com/2006/11/02/i-havent-been-a-good-example-to-belinda/#comment-418 Pastor Art,<br/><br/>I tried looking you up a few days ago. I'm glad you made it back. We MUST talk. :)<br/><br/>- Donny - Pastor Art,

I tried looking you up a few days ago. I’m glad you made it back. We MUST talk. :)

- Donny -

]]> By: Donny http://www.donnypauling.com/blog/2006/11/02/i-havent-been-a-good-example-to-belinda/comment-page-1/#comment-4904 Donny Fri, 03 Nov 2006 04:08:00 +0000 http://donnysramblings.wordpress.com/2006/11/02/i-havent-been-a-good-example-to-belinda/#comment-4904 Pastor Art,I tried looking you up a few days ago. I'm glad you made it back. We MUST talk. :)- Donny - Pastor Art,I tried looking you up a few days ago. I’m glad you made it back. We MUST talk. :) - Donny -

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