Comments on: The 19 Year Old Girl http://www.donnypauling.com/blog/2007/01/20/the-19-year-old-girl/ The Blog of Donny Pauling: former porn producer, changed by Grace and Love... Wed, 10 Mar 2010 02:45:16 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: The Departure Of The Bad-Gunky « Donny’s Ramblings http://www.donnypauling.com/blog/2007/01/20/the-19-year-old-girl/comment-page-1/#comment-922 The Departure Of The Bad-Gunky « Donny’s Ramblings Sat, 23 Jun 2007 05:50:43 +0000 http://donnysramblings.wordpress.com/2007/01/20/the-19-year-old-girl/#comment-922 [...] ended. I loved her so much. I made so many mistakes, and I felt so much guilt for those. I made Belinda feel emotions I never intended her to feel. I messed with her head, big [...] [...] ended. I loved her so much. I made so many mistakes, and I felt so much guilt for those. I made Belinda feel emotions I never intended her to feel. I messed with her head, big [...]

]]> By: riggy fargus http://www.donnypauling.com/blog/2007/01/20/the-19-year-old-girl/comment-page-1/#comment-921 riggy fargus Sun, 21 Jan 2007 23:00:45 +0000 http://donnysramblings.wordpress.com/2007/01/20/the-19-year-old-girl/#comment-921 the fact that you reviewed john's comment and let it through says a lot about you. Humble yourself before God and people and the sky is the limit for you in every respect. Thank God for second chances. the fact that you reviewed john’s comment and let it through says a lot about you. Humble yourself before God and people and the sky is the limit for you in every respect. Thank God for second chances.

]]> By: brad http://www.donnypauling.com/blog/2007/01/20/the-19-year-old-girl/comment-page-1/#comment-920 brad Sun, 21 Jan 2007 02:39:41 +0000 http://donnysramblings.wordpress.com/2007/01/20/the-19-year-old-girl/#comment-920 oh, and donny,<br /><br />i visit your blog daily precisely because you don't water your stuff down. oh, and donny,

i visit your blog daily precisely because you don’t water your stuff down.

]]> By: brad http://www.donnypauling.com/blog/2007/01/20/the-19-year-old-girl/comment-page-1/#comment-919 brad Sun, 21 Jan 2007 02:39:34 +0000 http://donnysramblings.wordpress.com/2007/01/20/the-19-year-old-girl/#comment-919 im not your best friend, but i do think you should take all the responsibility for what you've done. john has a place in your life to be that blunt...frankly, he's earned it. but i'm not going to tell you to stop beating yourself up. or to blame someone else. <br /><br />you've already experienced forgiveness. plus, i don't think you blogged this to get responses as much as to help process what you're going through. something i completely understand. and you're a great blogger. i grew as a person from experiencing these last couple of posts.<br /><br />the blame and guilt? you'll wrestle with that probably until you're tired of wrestling with it. i've wrestled with mine.<br /><br />brad im not your best friend, but i do think you should take all the responsibility for what you’ve done. john has a place in your life to be that blunt…frankly, he’s earned it. but i’m not going to tell you to stop beating yourself up. or to blame someone else.

you’ve already experienced forgiveness. plus, i don’t think you blogged this to get responses as much as to help process what you’re going through. something i completely understand. and you’re a great blogger. i grew as a person from experiencing these last couple of posts.

the blame and guilt? you’ll wrestle with that probably until you’re tired of wrestling with it. i’ve wrestled with mine.

brad

]]> By: Donny Pauling http://www.donnypauling.com/blog/2007/01/20/the-19-year-old-girl/comment-page-1/#comment-918 Donny Pauling Sat, 20 Jan 2007 21:59:52 +0000 http://donnysramblings.wordpress.com/2007/01/20/the-19-year-old-girl/#comment-918 Ladies and gentlemen, read the comment above this. The one made by my best friend John.<br /><br />He knows both Belinda and I, and the reason he's my best friend is because he doesn't kiss my butt and tell me what I want to hear. He calls it as he sees it. Ladies and gentlemen, read the comment above this. The one made by my best friend John.

He knows both Belinda and I, and the reason he’s my best friend is because he doesn’t kiss my butt and tell me what I want to hear. He calls it as he sees it.

]]> By: John & Jennifer http://www.donnypauling.com/blog/2007/01/20/the-19-year-old-girl/comment-page-1/#comment-917 John & Jennifer Sat, 20 Jan 2007 21:53:42 +0000 http://donnysramblings.wordpress.com/2007/01/20/the-19-year-old-girl/#comment-917 This story sounds familiar, do I know this girl?<br /><br />Seriously, I think your story is incredibly accurate. Because of that, it shows that you are owning up to your own mistakes. I think that's a good thing. <br />Some people will tell you that you shouldn't be taking this blame and that you are just punishing yourself. It's 'the devils' fault, or it's 'Belinda's' fault... Nope!<br /><br />I've seen this story unfold from the beginning. I believe that it is more your fault then hers. <br />Here's why...<br />You have a strong personality that demands to be "in charge" of things, you are somewhat on the controlling side. This is why you and your ex-wife would never work out together, she would never let you have that control that you would want. Furthermore, it would be the other way around, if not, then she would give you the boot. Your ex would keep you on a tight leash and you would rebel against that leash by doing things behind her back, again!<br /><br />Today, I opened a fortune cookie that said "You have a huge ego that wants to be fed daily, you need to be 'in control' and the center of your universe"<br />I think that was meant to be your cookie. LOL! <br /><br />I'm not putting you down by saying the above because I'm not convinced that those are bad qualities in a person, you would probably do just fine with a passive person as a mate.<br /><br />The games; <br />I believe that 'the games' were more for your entertainment then Belinda's. Most people that read your blog will not understand that one either, but I do. <br />As you know, I've thought about playing the game myself, and I have came close to playing them a few times. After seeing the damage done to your relationship, I may never play those games in mine.<br />I'm no Dr. Phil, but that's just my view from the outside in, OR, from the inside out if you are a blog reader that doesn't know Donny and Belinda on a personal level.<br /><br />BLA, BLA, BLA.... I owe, I owe.... So OFF TO WORK I GO!<br /><br />See ya! This story sounds familiar, do I know this girl?

Seriously, I think your story is incredibly accurate. Because of that, it shows that you are owning up to your own mistakes. I think that’s a good thing.
Some people will tell you that you shouldn’t be taking this blame and that you are just punishing yourself. It’s ‘the devils’ fault, or it’s ‘Belinda’s’ fault… Nope!

I’ve seen this story unfold from the beginning. I believe that it is more your fault then hers.
Here’s why…
You have a strong personality that demands to be “in charge” of things, you are somewhat on the controlling side. This is why you and your ex-wife would never work out together, she would never let you have that control that you would want. Furthermore, it would be the other way around, if not, then she would give you the boot. Your ex would keep you on a tight leash and you would rebel against that leash by doing things behind her back, again!

Today, I opened a fortune cookie that said “You have a huge ego that wants to be fed daily, you need to be ‘in control’ and the center of your universe”
I think that was meant to be your cookie. LOL!

I’m not putting you down by saying the above because I’m not convinced that those are bad qualities in a person, you would probably do just fine with a passive person as a mate.

The games;
I believe that ‘the games’ were more for your entertainment then Belinda’s. Most people that read your blog will not understand that one either, but I do.
As you know, I’ve thought about playing the game myself, and I have came close to playing them a few times. After seeing the damage done to your relationship, I may never play those games in mine.
I’m no Dr. Phil, but that’s just my view from the outside in, OR, from the inside out if you are a blog reader that doesn’t know Donny and Belinda on a personal level.

BLA, BLA, BLA…. I owe, I owe…. So OFF TO WORK I GO!

See ya!

]]> By: Amanda http://www.donnypauling.com/blog/2007/01/20/the-19-year-old-girl/comment-page-1/#comment-916 Amanda Sat, 20 Jan 2007 21:53:36 +0000 http://donnysramblings.wordpress.com/2007/01/20/the-19-year-old-girl/#comment-916 Donny, your transparency is so refreshing. But I think it's important that you realize that you can't shoulder all of the blame either. Both you and Belinda made choices. Those choices had consequences. It's not about what she did or what you did; it's about what both of you chose to do. Donny, your transparency is so refreshing. But I think it’s important that you realize that you can’t shoulder all of the blame either. Both you and Belinda made choices. Those choices had consequences. It’s not about what she did or what you did; it’s about what both of you chose to do.

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